There has been an increase in the availability of sex toys in South Africa in the last five years.

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Many sex toys designed today are to support women who are unable to orgasm through sexual penetration alone.

Sex toys are no longer seen as a replacement in the bedroom, but rather an enhancement to be used either individually or as a couple.

Vibrators are a good first sex toy to introduce. They can provide just a light tingle or a deep rumble, and are available in many different shapes, sizes and prices.

The clitoral vibrator

This includes a bullet vibrator that is about five centimetres long with a pointed tip. The tip is designed to target the clitoris but can easily be used on other sensitive body parts such as your nipples.

They’re quiet, can discreetly fit into your handbag, and are easy to grip and manage. Some are even disguised as lipsticks or key rings, and some have a suction capability that many women say is an orgasm guarantee.

While they don’t have the most potent power, they are usually the most inexpensive of the vibrators.

The egg vibrator

For the more adventurous, this toy can be inserted into the vagina while your partner (or you) remote controls the sensations – from up to 12 metres away!

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The rabbit vibrator

This vibrator has two arms. The long arm can be inserted into the vagina, and the shorter arm can rest on the vulva to stimulate the clitoris. Double delight!

Look for one that has enough flexibility to adapt to your specific needs.

The wand vibrator

This vibrator is quite large and has a powerful, rumbling vibration. It is used to massage the whole vulva.

Warning: start on the lowest setting and work your way up!